On a recent Instagram post, we asked our followers what advice they have really valued as a new mum – check out their wise words below!
- Everything is temporary! The bad times AND the good.
- Don’t obsess over centile charts – someone has to be both at the top and add the bottom!
- Eat what you want. It’s nearly impossible to manage three healthy nutritionally balanced meals a day when you’re a new mum (though it’s not a bad goal!) I was really saddened to see women from my nct group talking about ‘snapping back’ mere weeks after giving birth because what you really need is energy. So don’t worry if lunch is cake or dinner is ice cream, there’ll be plenty of time for salad later.
- Trust your gut and keep it simple. Women raised babies without the internet etc for millennia. Just get to know your little one and you will work it out – too much advice can be overwhelming and confusing. That and Infacol!
- Everything’s a phase, good or bad! You just have to ride the waves as they come. Sometimes you need to batten down the hatches and other times it’s best to ask for help but whatever it is you’ll be onto something new in no time.
- A few I go by: trust your gut instinct not google; look at yourself with your babies eyes-for them you’re the best thing in the whole world; put your phone down-take in all those precious moments, breath, relax and enjoy it!
- It’s a good idea to limit guests in the first few weeks after having a baby but if you do have people round, stay in your pyjamas. If you’re in your pyjamas they’ll be more likely to help out while they are there and you’ll be less likely to go into hostess mode. Anyone who is visiting should also help out in some way – making you something to eat, emptying the rubbish bins or holding the baby so you can have a shower. It’s ok to ask for, and accept help!
- Some days its enough that they have full tummies and are loved. Try not to be super mum all the time. They don’t care.
- If I’m having a tough time it’s because they’re having a tough time – everything is a phase xxx
- Definitely the phrase – “this too shall pass”, that’s really helped me. Also, nobody knows your baby like you; trust your instincts and do what is right for you and your baby not what others tell you that you should be doing. Our babies haven’t had another mum to compare us to and love you unconditionally. You grew and nourished this baby for 9 months, so you got this!
- There’s no right way to parent so can’t get it wrong
- Colostrum harvesting! So underrated!! It helped me so much in those first 3 days not to worry she was getting enough from my destroyed nipples.
- Don’t feel the need to go to all the baby classes under the sun even if others do – your baby will not suffer if you don’t take them to baby sensory/yoga/massage/signing/music classes!
- Not baby specific but… Don’t pursue a life of complete happiness. Live for moments of joy/contentment in the life you already have. Because your life is already the perfect way it’s meant to be.
Do you have any more pearls of wisdom to add?