The name ‘Nurturing Mums’ may suggest we aren’t dad friendly… this is NOT the case, just Nurturing Parents just doesn’t roll of the tongue quite so well and in all honesty, we’ve never had a dad partake in our postnatal course – we would love this to change. We are pleased to be spreading the non-judgemental love to new dads via Alex Hutton i.e. Mr Nurturing Mums, via his new Instagram account @nurturingdads – check it out and catch up on what Alex has to say about being a dad in our interview below!
What is the best thing about being a dad?
I’d have to say the sense of family, having that loving and supportive unit at home. Yes, it can be annoying when your toddler won’t play ball, or your partner wants you to wake up at 3am to try and appease the crying, even though you were asleep! But knowing that they both love you (even if it might not be outwardly shown at the time!) makes it all worthwhile. Aside from that, surely the answer has to be Father’s Day!!
How did you feel when you first became a dad?
An initial sense of relief! Relief that Lu was OK and that Teddy had been born safely. I’d spent 27 minutes (not long at all) feeling helpless, just sat next to Lu trying (probably unsuccessfully) to be reassuring. She was the picture of calm and clearly the more composed. My relief soon, turned to an overwhelming sense of love and pride – being asked to cut the umbilical cord, having to cuddle Teddy to keep him warm while his brave mummy was recovering. Obviously, our story turned out to be a little more complicated beyond that, and I think I experienced the entire spectrum of emotions over the following week, before finally getting home to start a new ‘normal’.
What is your favourite thing to do with your family?
Aside from the utter joy of Teddy asking for group cuddles, when he sees Lu and I sneak a cuddle in, I’d have to say taking him out for walks. There’s only so much time you can spend indoors before one of you wants to kill the other (that can be any one of the three of us!), which means getting outside is a real joy. Whether it’s to a local park, to a friend’s house, or just up the road to Waitrose (Teddy’s preferred option!), going out as a three always makes me feel happy, and probably goes back to the first point about what’s the best thing about being a dad.
How do you find fitting your job in with being a dad?
I’m possibly one of the more fortunate dad’s out there. My work are excellent in regards to my work-life balance. I’ve had a very supportive team who have always told me to look after Teddy (and Lu) first, and think about work second, which has taken a huge burden off my shoulders given the past two years. While I don’t get to enjoy any weekday mornings (I’m out of the house by just after 6am!) Lu makes sure I get the ‘pleasure’ of her weekday routine on Saturday and Sunday! My working hours mean that I’m almost always home for tea time, and always home for bathtime and bedtime, which I know a lot of dads out there don’t get the chance to do. So, yeh, I’m pretty lucky really.
Any top tips for new dads?
Enjoy it! Yes it’s going to be tough, and yes your life does change and you don’t always get to do the things that you want when you want. But there’s loads of benefits that outweigh those minor alterations. One thing I find useful is talking about being dad. Who cares if your colleagues aren’t, or have no interest. It is who you are and forms a huge part of your identity. I’m not saying you should let being a dad define you, or that you should talk relentlessly at people about how your toddler has wrecked your social life! But embrace being a dad, and let people know about the good bits.
What can we expect from @nurturingdads on Instagram?
Well I’m pretty new to the whole parent-on-social-media scene – in fact I’m a total novice! Which means I should probably be asking you for tips on what I should be doing and what you/people would like to see! @nurturuingdads will continue to document the time I spend with Teddy and Lu, and hopefully highlight some of the best (and sometimes not so good) bits of being a dad!
We can’t wait to hear and see more! We are also thinking about some dad meet ups too – let us know if you / your partner would be interested!